No matter your age or social status, you understand how difficult it is in this day and age if you are dating.
Dating apps, online dating, and modern transportation has eased dating and provided more possible partners. The internet has even connected people with more viable partners.
Dating in an age of ultimate objectification, overt sexualizing of every aspect of life, busy lifestyles, and divorce as a possibility, it’s easy to throw in the towel, stay inside, and resolve to die alone and suffocate under a pile of cats.
You do have control
There is hope because, though there is much of dating that is not in your control, you do have some control, and you don’t have to date miserably.
You’ll never be able to control others. Still, you can control your perspective, attitude, and focus. Half the dating game is in your head. Here are some ways to help yourself be happier and successful in dating.
The best attitude to adopt when dating, and anytime in life, is positivity.
Nothing is more attractive than a positive, upbeat spirit. Not only do you put yourself in a more winning headspace that is more prone to success, but people are naturally attracted to positive people.
A positive headspace will help you stay away from negative thought patterns and assumptions, which are the easiest ways to kill a young relationship.
You’ll enjoy dating more, even during the tough times, if you keep perspective.
A winning perspective while dating involves positivity, which says, “I matter, I am enough.”
And even when things don’t work out, remember that you’ve gained experience and learned more about yourself.
These thoughts are what make life full and worth living.
Also, remember the person sitting across from you is just a person. Though it’s natural and healthy to care what they think of you, they do not determine your value.
They’re just another human being trying to get this time on Earth right, just like us.
Take care of yourself
As you keep perspective, be sure not to lose yourself and your life in the process of dating someone else.
You’ll always be an individual, even when you are in a relationship.
As you date, be sure to continue to invest in yourself. Continuing to hang out with your friends, do things you like to do, and make you feel good and more like yourself.
You’ll not only retain a positive focus but also come off as more attractive and independent.
Stay in the moment
It’s easy, especially when we’ve had many bad dating experiences, to have our brain analyzing and overthinking in the background as we are on a date.
As best as you can, stay in the moment.
- You’ll have more fun
- Respond better to interactions with your date
- Have a better opportunity to observe your date to see if they are someone you want to commit to
- Say it again: you’ll have more fun!
Even though dating can feel like a complete drag, life is short, and you should make it as fun as possible!
Take your life to the next level
These are just a few tips for staying positive while dating.
Remember, you are worth being treated well.
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